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vanilla-voyeur · 1 year ago

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Your birthday doesn't need to fall on the exact day to count. I picked from holidays commonly observed in the US. If your choice isn't listed, put it in the tags.

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adhdandcomics · 4 months ago

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perhaps the most important question i’ve ever asked:

does anyone have tips for people trying to stop being chronically late to everything in the world that aren’t weirdly judgmental and aggressive or flat out lies

#when i tell you every single resource i’ve ever found or tried to get through or anyone i’ve ever asked #has been just so. mean about it #not even intentionally #not always at least #but there’s so much inherent shame tied to being late to things or being a person who used to be late to things #that i don’t think people can untie that from their ‘helpful tips’#it’s all ‘i used to also be a lazy uncaring piece of shit! you don’t have to be a horrible wretched loser anymore!’ and it’s like. okay.#you see how that’s not helping. right.#making me feel worse about it is NEVER helpful. i promise you i already have tortured myself over it FARRR more than any ‘on time’ person #ever had #this has been a comic i’ve been stewing on for ages as well but. well there’s of course the shame #idk it’s something that people are always despicably mean about bc fundamentally people who have never struggled with it #see it as a personal choice to be late #and as something one needs to just ‘try harder’ to fix. and that if you don’t #you inherently don’t care about other people’s time or even other people in general #and that feels horrible! it feels really bad!!#i mean i’ve got it from EVERYONE. disability allies. other adhd folks. disability resource offices #it’s something that nobody ever cares to acknowledge or try to accommodate for #bc time blindness and exec dysfunction are NEVER taken seriously as disabilities. they’re always always viewed as a personal failing #and i’m sick and tired of it. bc all this does is make people struggling with this Hate themselves #and worry endlessly that maybe they Are selfish and actually Don’t care about anyone else #there’s a bit too much here to keep in the tags i should really do the comic for adhd awareness month

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turtleblogatlast · 9 months ago

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I think a lot about Leo’s tendency to push his way into the spotlight despite clearly being a natural in the shadows. Hell, you could argue that his worst moments are when he’s forcing himself onstage, and his best are when he does things no one notices until it’s already been done.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt leo #rottmnt headcanons #rise leo #His aptitude with subterfuge sleight of hand stealth and speed really push how being a ninja really comes naturally to him.#it’s arguable that his desperation for the spotlight and validation is an act of subterfuge against himself #note that when he’s offered a job as a mascot he’s fine being unknown #when he and splinter win the battle nexus Leo immediately says ‘they love YOU pops’#idk I think so much about how good a ninja Leo is #and how much his persona is more an actor #Leo as a tot is shown a natural skill at katana too so hear me out-#every Leo is a natural ninja but every Leo’s route in life is directly tied to their splinter so #since rise splinter is an actor Leo too aims for it #and he brings it into his whole life - masking always because a Leo makes what they do who they are #I think that Leo naturally falls more in line with that of a typical ninja #his eccentric performer self is his subterfuge skill just set to an 11 at all times #not that that’s NOT him - like I said it’s still undoubtedly a part of Leo #but? idk I think about little moments like Leo being the only one to choose stealth in bug busters #or Leo being the only one to almost get Gus’s dog tags in The Ninja Art of Hide and Seek (he was so close but luck was against him alas)#like- he’s clearly in his element there and he falls into those skills so easily #it’s like how everyone has skills in so many things but some exceed more in some than others do #like Raph? Raph’s the biggest Hero of the bunch of them let’s be perfectly real here. Raph is THE Hero #All the boys are smart in their own rights but Donnie is THE Genius.#and they all have mystic powers but Mikey is THE Mystic Warrior with immense untapped potential #likewise Leo I feel is THE Ninja #but yeah I love how much Leo goes for the spotlight anyway for better or for worse #he IS a performer again make no mistake! but again the way he does it still lines up with his natural ninja aptitude and I love it #Leo loving magic tricks and magicians so much works doubly well here because like #you’d think he’s focused solely on the performance flair - no it’s ALSO and ESPECIALLY the DECEPTION

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lazylittledragon · 3 months ago

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Please ignore if this is too personal but IIRC you were/are dealing with caffeine addiction? I hope you're doing Ok, as a former addict I know how hard it is so wishing you the best xx

thank you for checking in!!

i'm doing very well!! i haven't cut out coffee completely bc i really don't think i can (it's been one of my daily pleasures for SO long), but right now i only have 1-2 espresso shots and i don't even have it every day anymore

also remembering that i used to have 4-6 shots per drink, sometimes multiple times a day, makes me want to throw up now which is probably a good sign ajkdhdsh

#ramble #tw addiction #i've always felt weird calling it an addiction bc like. it was just coffee and it feels like bastardising a little bit #but i mean it was a habit i couldn't live without and it was making my life actively worse so i feel like it qualifies #the fact that someone checks in on me every couple of months is very sweet :'))#if you're asking how i was like. ok. during the worst of it #amazing question. i was NOT #as someone who already has digestive issues idk why the fuck i did that to myself sjhdhdsh #i'm starting my job soon and i'm a bit worried it's going to get bad again so if it does i'll switch fully to decaf #it's not even about the energy i just like having a fun little drink in the middle of the day #so if i have to stop having caffeine completely it shouldn't be that bad #as long as i have my syrups and my milk frother i'll be grand

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yuwuta · 7 months ago

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gojo would kill your work husband. but if he were the work husband, that's a different story

REAL!! he’s such a hypocrite because if someone mentioned you had a work husband, his entire world would stop and he wold devise the absolute worst plans to make sure that your co-worker, everyone at your job, and everyone in the next building over knew that he was happily committed to you

but if he is the work husband, he’s very........ dutiful in his role. there’s a loose office/lawyer au in my head where satoru is your secretary, and for all intents and purposes, your personal assistant, and he’s good at his job, but mostly because he considers his job to be pleasing you. he has coffee for you when you arrive, he moves your schedule around without you asking, he has answers to questions before you can even ask them, he has fresh flowers on your desk weekly, pokes into your meetings to pretend to hand you a file that’s really just maybe a single document in a manilla folder with candy on top of it—he’s made himself your business, your partner; he’s made himself irreplaceable, and he loves to remind everybody of that fact.

he’s also extremely loyal. sure, he could day a week’s worth of work done in about a day, but that doesn’t mean he’ll just use his talents for anybody. he’s your secretary, so he’s at your beck and call, and everyone knows it. they know he’s the best, but also that he’s off limits—not because you won’t share him, but because satoru won’t let himself be shared.

he also extends his duties beyond work, of course. when he hands you a print out of your schedule for the day and you’re confused by the three-hour block of time you have in the middle of the day, satoru just helps you shrug your coat of your shoulders and smiles, “that’s for the lunch date you have with me, of course!” hanging up your coat in your closet for you, “i’m paying, see you soon, sweets.” and because you’re great at your job, and satoru helps you be great, nobody really questions when the two of you have time for a 13-course tasting menu at 1pm on a tuesday afternoon. and if they did, all satoru would say that you two had a lovely date

#anonymous #he's like donna from suits but worse because he's like if harvey were donna LOL #i have soooooo much to say about him #he doesn't really Have to work he's a nepotism baby supreme #but he met you maybe in undergrad? and he's been obsessed w you since #he knows youre a workaholic so he's dutifully sat by your side all these years through college through grad/professional school #and when you told him you got to hire your own assistant he was the very first applicant #because getting paid to spend his days with you and take care of you? he was already doing that for free might as well make it official #everyone in the office knows satoru loves you except you honestly #he probably has his own masters/JD but elects to be your assistant anyway bc that's so much more fun #what he Really wants to be a househusband but first he's gotta ask you out and propose and all that good stuff (cue him rolling his eyes #and going on about formalities and boring systems and blah blah blah)#also in the office au in my head: nanami (also senior partner) higuruma ofc <3 beloved (managing partner) and TOJI!#WALK WITH ME!#its honestly probably satoru's influence that gets toji into law... as someone who so feverently broke it in the past #idk maybe there's a megumi situation that makes gojo be like yk if ur this good at skirting/breaking the law youd probably be half decent #at enforcing it... or at least helping other people get around it too #and so lawyer toji is born #does he screw around w the rich people who r stupid w their money? absolutely #but you nanami and higuruma just let it be bc he brings in those settlements better than anybody else....#hmmm... i kinda wanna make megumi somebody's associate but also..... yuuta.....#i think i just like sticking yuuta in a tie if im being real #but anyway... satoru is your Work Husband and everyone knows he wants to be your real husband #but they just let it slide bc rumour has it even tho hes just a secretary hes got equity in the firm?? and besides that his heart eyes give #away his hopeless devotion from a mile away #the day you actually start seeing somebody outside of work... oh theyre in for Trouble #satoru x reader #him dragging you out of ur office late at night and u protesting so he just. puts u over his shoulder #and ur telling him to let u down but he's insisting u go home and then nanami pops out of his office #and ur like wait nanami this isnt what it looks like but he's so dead in the eyes when he just sighs

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pixlokita · 1 month ago

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Can I be real honest and admit how much it saddens me that Instagram doesn’t even let me check if my friends or mutuals liked a post or story without slapping me with “insights” and how good or bad I’m doing regarding my content. I? Don’t care? God forbid I just want to share drawings or funny stories just for the heck of it . why does everything have to be about your account’s performance.

#pix habla #being a people pleaser and struggling with being good enough makes this worse for me #not right now I’m doing so much better really #but it makes me sad to the point of tears this is all that matters #I miss simpler times when it was just about sharing stuff with friends or people who’d enjoy it #I also made the mistake of opening comments on popular posts and it’s all just ? complaints ? people asking for more and complaining when #it doesn’t cater to what they want #I’m really tired 👉👈 idk #it just feels like keeping up with the algorithm ruins art and even just people’s feelings in general #it shouldn’t be about that #Eugh #anyway I can’t even check who likes my stuff it’s just a number now #a number attached to an analysis about performance and account activity #again… that’s so incredibly depressing #but I digress pffft #:’> I’m ok just had to get that off my chest #it’s been bothering me #I see artists I look up to struggling to stay in the algorithm and it shows their art has suffered for it #it kinda hurts to see it yknow #but again. I digress!!!#-sad shimi dance- Shakira Shakira…

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6-2-aestheticsofhate · 4 months ago

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There's something really funny about Minos popping out of the flesh prison and talking about wanting to gore Gabriel and then Sisyphus pops out and doesn't even mention Gabriel in specific, just mentions Heaven as a whole. He doesn't even think about him. Gabriel occupies 0 of Sisyphus's thoughts despite Gabriel having killed him which to me is hilarious. Nobody ever makes a Gabriel tries to ask for forgiveness from the both of them au that involves Sisyphus basically going new phone whos this

#i think gabriel would take being completely forgotten abt or seen as just a nameless soldier as worse than being not forgiven #he realizes he takes up 0 of sisyphus's mental space. and even after his realization at the end of 6-2 and realizing he and #the other angels arent better than anyone else because everyone bleeds the same blood hes still like.#a little offended.#like only a little like. i think hes more surprised and like. ???????#Gabriel has this beautiful speech in his mind when going to apologize to Sisyphus and Sisyphus is like yeah idk who u are

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canonkiller · 3 months ago

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I can't draw right now to put this into Enjoyable Comic Form but please remember that you have choice. even if you are depressed or otherwise neurodivergent or disabled or Stuck there are always things you can do to improve your situation. even if they are small things like tidying up your immediate area or silly things like listening to a new radio station or scary things like trying to get help, you can do them. it might suck and it might hurt and it might be difficult but you can do it and it's worth doing. If nothing else just go sit or stand somewhere unusual to remember you have free will. Love yourself

#and even if doing it means you then have to wait months to hear back (sound of me dustantly throttling Canada's health care system)#idk very easy to get trapped in the loop of waiting for a milestone where things happen #or piling everything on an instance of someone else's intervention #at the end of the day the person who saves you has to be you. continuing to want life no matter the cost #not art #voice of a guy who is mad that his teeth hurt bc the government won't answer if they'll pay for it #if you are going to be a hater on this post you have to provide a strawman who is worse off than me. good luck

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mohntilyet · 2 months ago

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Personal headcanon about the "you picked the wrong dellamorte" line, I don't think illario actually likes rook outside the context of them being someone close to lucanis. Like rook on their own isn't much to him, but when they meet it's yet another person talking about his cousin (why isn't he good enough for whatever job they're hiring for?) and on top of that they somehow bring him back from the dead (another whole can of worms for illario). Now he starts turning on the charm, but whether he's actually interested or this is just one more thing his cousin has that he doesn't and it gets under his skin, who knows. Either way, rook ignores illario, the guy who lives off his charm, and is instead interested in the guy who's never even dated before and thinks giving someone a knife is how to flirt. Infuriating

NO THANK YOU !! i am genuinely sorry if i have ever implied illario is into rook like i see some takes about it and unless it like ties into your rook's personal backstory i don't seriously think he's romantically jealous. at all. my enjoyment of that line stems from illario's pathological need to make it about himself and not see his strengths but what lucanis has, and therefore what he doesn't. he's annoyed enough to try and goad you in the middle of a fight about the 'wrong' dellamorte and completely blind to the fact that the venatori are at best, a stupid fucking alliance, and at worst, a cult that will devour the crows from the inside out and illario would have been the one to give them the keys. he sees lucanis make allies, needs his own, and instead of charming the other talons/houses as he should, he (probably spitefully) picks the venatori. or maybe he just thought it would be easier. ugh he makes me want to telekenetically throw him around

#and you raise a very hilarious point too LMFAO #not that he is jealous. just mad as hell its not working <3 I LIKE HIM VERY MUCH AND A NORMAL AMOUNT #to be clear i think his characterisation changed dramatically from wigmaker's job and a lot of his uh #very rash decisions about achieving power feels like they just needed a traitor character for lucanis #to really max out the use of spite. i really wish honestly that there was some canon support for illario #who would probably be a little more liked/popular than lucanis. bc lucanis is respected by the crows #but he's also a very distant 'dellamorte heir' figure. respect is not the same as being liked. so you know #there's the serious assassin with a rep for how good he is at killing #and there's a friendlier assassin with a rep for sweet talking #and neither of those reputations are necessarily true. but i know which one i'd be less afraid of #and i think illario would know that. and be able to use that. BUT WE DONT GET IT. WHATEVER.....#illario dellamorte #veilguard spoilers #answered #also we're introduced to an illario that understands being a crow. and has had all that drilled into him since childhood #why. would he. ally with the venatori.#why would he put himself into a situation that he couldnt control. other than 'the story needs a villain'#what im trying to say. is . there were the makings of a crow civil war here that ends with him tragically dead #if you asked me to expand on this i dont think i could. but like the main issue being the crows not standing together making #the antaam invasion worse (btw regarding this why the fuck were the antaam even invading) so lucanis' quest is #idk. something like uniting the crows together and potentially repairing his relationship w illario #or hardening him and convincing he needs to kill illario #this is me spitballing. dont even mind me #(glances at the 'illario mention' alarm going off in the background)#EDIT: AND ALSO IT JUST CAME TO ME #killing illario as an ending also makes lucanis first talon (oh we're really in the cycles now)#forgiving illario ends with illario becoming 'talon' tho he and lucanis work closely. like a ceo vs cfo #and ends with them repairing their relationship #in the ideal world lucanis would fully leave but im alright with crows making small steps towards becoming a bit healthier

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lovehours · 1 year ago

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i don’t even fucking care

#house md #house spoilers #hilson #the fact that house is consistently selfish. that he’s an addict. he’s always in pain #but he gave up his vicodin for wilson. mind you the pain in his thigh must have been excruciating #bc consistently whenever he’s extremely stressed or worried the pain gets worse #but wilson is still his priority. he put wilson above the burning pain god man😭#him giving up his freedom HIS LIFE for someone who has less than half a year to live like oh my god #the love house has for wilson actually makes me sick bc even outside of the cancer arc house has done things for wilsons sake #like almost killing himself just to help him and amber. drugging him at that one conference from s6 #he’s an asshole often times but he truly is the only constant in his life. they both are for each other #i actually feel sick. im not on everybody dies yet (im on the c word rn) but god idk how im gonna get thru this😭#5x13 big baby #8x19 the c word #1x01 everybody lies #8x22 everybody dies #7x15 bombshells #8x21 holding on #where the quotes are from btw #sorry for the essay in tags

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monabee-draws · 2 months ago

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Caitlyn's slow but inevitable decline into facism was painful to watch but it's Vi's tacit support of that that REALLY hurts me.

Cait was raised at the top of the hierarchy and it only took her being the one 'in danger' to flip from sympathetic to the undercity to desperately angry and wanting to return to the status quo where she and piltover are in power/control/oppress the weak 'for their own good.' I expected this to happen from the moment her rhetoric began to shift (us vs them, calling Zaunites animals, general dehumanisation.)

Vi knows that the issue is structural and the structure that's used to exercise violence against the oppressed is the enforcers, yet she still joined them anyway. It's excellent writing but the implications that has for her as a character who has been shown to have strong convictions and morals is so heartbreaking. It feels like her years in prison have eroded at the heroic spark in her to the point where she'll justify anything to return to the past. I keep asking myself how Vi could justify using The Grey as a weapon against the undercity, and her parotting what is probably Caitlyn's justification - that they used it to clear the streets and keep as many safe as possible - just rings so hollow. She felt like a lost soul just vaguely drifting through life in Act 1, and of course she did. She has no one left BUT Caitlyn. She has no place in the Undercity because it grew away from her. Her base of motivation as a kid was to fight for and protect the Lanes and now that the Lanes are gone who even is Violet anymore? If only she could rewind time and restore the uncomfortable uneven past.

Vi and Cait are actually the same person, the only difference is that Caitlyn has the power to enact her vision and Vi doesn't. I'm so sore.

#arcane season 2 #arcane spoilers #caitvi #vi arcane #caitlyn kiramman #meta #i want to say i stand with my cancelled wife #because i do love caitlyn #but her rise into dictatorship is so hard to reconcile with any other portrayal of her #i also do not think we should be attributing as much to Ambessa's influence as we are #yes Cait is grieving and seeking a mother figure and she's young #but her backslide into the Piltover way of thinking has been developing all along #she's the one who of her own volition took the Kirraman legacy of clean air and weaponised it #anyways idk how caitvi will reconcile but I'm so worried they'll both be worse off for it as people #ethically speaking #and Vi isn't innocent either i still remember her rebuke of Jayce wrt the child he accidentally killed #and her hair trigger temper #gosh they all need therapy and societal restructuring #best case scenario Zaun becomes independent and Piltover has to pay reparations but #yeah idk

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coquelicoq · 1 month ago

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christmas is so dangerous i'm always like who can i give murderbot to this year. but i've already given it to all the people i have reason to think would like it. so what does that leave me. my 14yo sister who only reads YA romance? my 16yo brother who thinks highly of the military? my 20yo sister whose reading tastes remain opaque to me? my stepmother who only reads nicolas sparks? my stepfather who doesn't read?

#i've already given mb to the oldest of my sisters and to my dad. as well as who knows how many people outside my family #my mom is not on here because she has a complicated relationship with reading now and i don't know if i would make it worse #by giving her things to read. so i've mostly stopped doing that. which is maybe not a good approach #i think the 20yo might like natsume and i do have extra copies of the first two volumes but i wonder if it's kinda cruel #to give someone the first two volumes of a series which is mostly out of print lol #idk she's 20 she probably reads stuff on her computer or whatever device. you can get the out of print volumes electronically right?#shitscram #my posts

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pokemon-radical-red · 1 month ago

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I hate it when I headcanon a character who’s canonically a girl as a trans man and make ships of him and a character who’s canonically a guy and I refer to it as a gay/mlm/guyxguy/whatever ship and someone gets mad. Like omg let trans people have FUNNNNN. Why are queer headcanons and genderbends cool until they’re saying that the character is trans???

“OMGGG you’re so misogynistic I can’t believe you would erase FEMALE representation!!!”

and like half of the characters in the franchise are women, and a total of… NONE of the characters are trans men. Also, my headcanon doesn’t change the source material. If my stuff upsets you, you can block me and go engage with the source or maybe every single other fanwork, since mine is the only trans man hc for this character that I’ve ever seen.

or when people are like “WTF??? this is so transphobic!!! how dare you imply that a character who looks like that could be a trans man?!?! do you think that trans men are women or something??? she uses she/her, and you’re misgendering her!”

No, I don’t think that being a trans man makes you a woman or vice versa. That’s why it’s a headcanon, and the headcanon is that this character is actually a trans man and not a woman at all! You’ll never guess what pronouns most trans men had to use at some point in their lives, and you really won’t like it when you find out about pre-(or no-)transition trans men… or trans men who are in the closet… or trans men who don’t know that they’re trans yet.

“But the character is a kid!!! Saying they’re trans is sexualizing them.”

I’ve seen this one from other queer people. Like did you miss when all of the homophobes said this about your identity, or do you think that bigotry is only bad when it’s directed at you?

“Why would you say ‘testosterone could fix her’??? Are you trying to call her a delusional woman?”

Why would your brain even go to that first? This literally has to be a bad faith reading, because there’s no way that someone could see what I said and get this unless they were specifically looking for something to be mad at me for.

(Note for anyone unaware: “Estrogen would’ve fixed him!” was a meme going around at the time I said this. I’m not sure if it’s still super big, but this was a joke to the effect of that.)

“So girls can’t be tomboys anymore? You just wanna trans everyone?”

This is like actual real life transphobic rhetoric. This isn’t even just shitting on my headcanon, but in fact, sending transphobic hate to a trans man. Thanks 👍. Maybe you should go send JK Rowling another message about how much you loved her essay instead of bothering me.